April 13, 2021

 

#PersonlatityTraining
Often I get asked, what exactly is it, that you do in your work when coaching?

That’s a great question and to be honest, it is not that easy to answer for me, it’s something that I ask myself often as well. Of course I know the techniques I use, somatic body work, analytical hearing, applied vocal physiology, the Lichtenberg® method, I draw from my experience of over 20 years as a vocal coach, from my artistic work, and my great experience of therapeutical methods. But what exactly do I do?

many of my blog posts are me trying to answer that question. So sorry, if it takes so many perspectives, but it is such multi colored work.

Today I’d like to tell a story that shows that part of my coaching which one could call personality training. I remember a young woman, she came to see me many years ago. All she wanted was to learn to sing a bit better. I remember the moment she was sitting in front of me, elegant, fragile, a lovely smile on her lips, with a serenity I seldomly see with young people. When she sang and I heard her angelic like voice, I remember asking myself  “what am I supposed to teach her, her voice is already so beautiful!” There she sat, an angel, with no care in the world.

She really wanted to be tought by me and I was happy to teach her. Who doesn’t love to work with voices, that let you  start with difficult pieces right away. What pure joy!

Only 2 weeks pasted and my question, why she had come to me, was answered. A very life in it’s uncompromising reality struck her. Suddenly all her carefreeness was challenged, and she fought like a lioness, first for her partner’s life, then for her autonomy. Soon it would be obvious, that this one hour a week with me, was the only time she had any time to herself and her needs. She had come with only light baggage and suddenly had a huge load strapped on and our work together, working on songs, voice and self worth. All this left her transformed and full of drive and energy. 

So one of the answer, what I do in my coaching work, would be: I accompany people in life crises. With what: with beautiful music, with love, with respect and compassion. And of course all those techniques, I got the chance to practice for so many years. One may practice to stop devaluing oneself with me, to accept oneself, to accept ones powers and ones weaknesses, very pracical and so many times just “on the side”. But I’m gonna tell that story another time.

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